"So if the Son set you free, you will be free indeed."     (John 8:36)

Sex - Love - Relationship Addictions

Much more than an affair and much different than substance addictions

​​Sex Addiction:

When we talk about sex addiction, the term is broad, covering more specific "types" of sexualized addictions.  Included are pornography addictions, sexual compulsions, relationship addictions, and internet sex addictions among others.  At the core, persons with sex addictions carry significant shame and guilt about their behavior cycling through stages of preoccupation, ritualization, compulsive behavior, and back to shame.  At the same time, perpetuation of the disease process is found in strong denial (rationalizing, minimizing, and lying to avoid the truth).  Unlike other addictive disorders, anonymity, affordability, and accessibility can also allow the condition to progress without significant overt consequences.  Sex addicts usually have difficulty being close and open in committed relationships, using the addiction as an attempt to escape painful and stressful feelings.  Fear and shame not only drive the addict (and the addiction), but can also be strong emotional components in the family unit especially when the acting out behavior is exposed. 

Indication of problematic sexual addiction include

  • Loss of control of behavior/s

  • Preoccupation of behavior/s

  • Significant adverse consequences directly/indirectly related to the behavior/s

  • Continued use/engagement in behaviors despite negative consequences (relational/emotional/physical)

Recovery is possible and can happen, but is a process.  Like any illness, getting the correct diagnosis is a good start.  Making sure you are getting the right treatment from a trained expert in this field in necessary.  You can be assured to find that in a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist.      

If you think you are or a family member may be a sex addict, please given us a call with any questions you may have.